As you can see, domestic violence is a subject that really gets to me.
As I mentioned, there have been times, especially when there was a bad story on the news, when I wanted to speak about the subject but did not. And my thought was, what if there was someone reading my blog and they were in an abusive relationship or were about to enter an abusive relationship and they were troubled about it but confused and so they stayed and something bad happened to them that maybe would not have happened if I had only said something?
That thought haunts me.
And when I heard that story, I had to speak.
Maybe it would have been better if I had written it later, when I was more calm, but maybe by then I would have been so calm I would have said nothing, just like all the other times.
There is a saying;
Silence Breeds Domestic Violence.
That is so true.
You have to speak up.
I know how hard it is and I know how confusing it is because of a million different reasons.
I hope there is not anyone out there who is experiencing this, but if there is I am glad I wrote this because I am talking to you.
And to those who are putting up with unacceptable crap from your partner, I am also talking to you.
That is the thing about abuse.
They tell you you deserve it because of whatever and you really start to believe you deserve it because, after all, you did forget to do this or that or blah, blah, blah, a million other reasons.
But no one deserves abuse of any kind.
Definitely not violence of any kind, and no, you NEVER deserve it.
But also being humiliated and constantly criticized and put down.
There are a lot of us who would never consider that abuse
BUT IT IS.
To get a detailed description of what abuse is, find a book, google the info, talk to someone on a hotline, or even write to me.
But if you are in a relationship where you constantly feel put down and not good enough then NO, YOU DO NOT DESERVE THAT. THAT IS ABUSE AND YOU NEED TO GET OUT BECAUSE IT ALWAYS ESCALATES AND GETS WORSE.
And you do not want to die a long, slow death because of it.
Feel uncomfortable in your relationship?
Look it up and see if it is abuse.
Then GET OUT.
You deserve a better life than that.
It all starts with Loving Yourself.
And despite the misguided information many of us have had growing up,
it is NOT a sin to love yourself and take care of yourself and PUT YOURSELF FIRST so that you are then whole enough to truly love others, and to know whether or not someone truly loves you.
So, Take Care.
I wish you Peace.